A fight can be like a forest fire -- a massive conflagration that sets the stage for the next phase in the cycle ...that makes the ground fertile for the next step in evolution. or it can be like a nuclear disaster --leaving a bitter and toxic aftermath that no one knows how to handle.
In either of these scenarios it is important to be centred and compassionate ( stuff which I am ok at ) and also honest ( something I am not so good at). I let stuff accumulate and then discharge it at once then I enter into that cycle again. I am working on it --I am so much more confident about staying with myself and saying what I really feel rather than what is expected of me at that moment . But there is still a lot of work that needs to be done in this regard.
oh, i tend to do the same. accumulate, accumulate and then i wouldn't call it discharge.. mine more comes out like a dam has broken and then there is calm and then the cycle begins again.
ReplyDeletebut i believe that you should always say what you feel because living up to others' expectations is not only taxing but also harmful for you as well as any relationship in the long term.